Waaaay back in November, when I actually had money and was spending too much time mooching around Cardiff in an attempt to avoid essays and revision, I headed into Waterstone’s and bought too many books. One of those books was Why I’m No Longer Talking to White People About Race by Reni Eddo-Lodge. As a white person who has never faced any race-related battle (and probably never will), I knew I had to pick this up. It was definitely worth the read! It's pretty fitting to chat to you about this book this week, as I've just finished writing an essay about racism in journalism so I'm allll over the subject.
The book starts off with a brief history of black people in the UK. I can remember once questioning why my GCSE history course contained one female and the rest of the course was dictated by white males, but I honestly didn’t realise how little I knew about black history in my own country. I actually didn’t know much (barely anything, in fact) about slavery in the UK…can you believe that?! So, there’s me being called out for my ignorance within the first few pages. I really appreciated the first chapter giving a briefing on black history in the UK because it makes it much easier to navigate the next few chapters.
The book discusses how corrupt the system is and I found the “Fear of a Black Planet” chapter particularly interesting. For example, a fully qualified black man (I’m talking degree level qualified) has as much chance of getting a job as an unqualified white male. I really don’t think I can explain how horrifying some of the stats were.
I also enjoyed a chapter named “The Feminism Question”, which actually reflected on something I’ve been pondering for a while. Why are feminists all for ‘women supporting women’ until it’s a black woman who needs that support? Reni chats about an interview she had with a woman in this chapter who clearly was not about supporting all women and it’s truly inspiring to read about her resilience.
I think what made Why I’m No Longer Talking to White People About Race so impactful to me was that we are living in this moment. Reni talks about the past, definitely, but she also talks about present issues such as the case of Stephen Lawrence and the casual racism that, on the whole, British society has allowed in. I have always been aware of my own white privilege and I’ve always tried to speak up about topics that I feel strongly about and can use my voice for, equality and racism being two of them, but after reading this book I was insanely inspired to speak out about more things that I disagree with; with that said, please feel free to call me out if you ever think I’m being ignorant.
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Okay, that title is a lie. Things do look good on me, but that thought runs through my head more times in a day than I’d like to admit. As a female who doesn’t fit the most popular beauty norms, I am definitely not as kind about my body as I should be sometimes.
I have big boobs, big hips and a big bum. Of course, I have a lil’ tum too, but I’m learning to love that. When I wear relatively fitted clothing, my body doesn’t look too bad. But the thing is, I hate wearing fitted clothes. Baggy t-shirts are my comfort dream, but looking like a shapeless marshmallow is not my ideal. It doesn’t help that I put on and lose weight extremely quickly, thanks to my PCOS. If I have a few days of bad eating, I can definitely notice it. Don’t even start me on how bad I look when I start my period. My stomach is honestly like a rock.
Finding clothes that look good on your body and also allow you to feel comfortable and confident is something that I came to terms with sometime last year. I now know that I will never step foot in a Topshop dressing room without wanting to cry, because they make their clothes for women who don’t carry a pair of DDs on their chest. Don’t even start me on buying trousers and jeans, unfortunately Fashion Nova are the only place I can buy a pair of trousers from that can get around my booty and hips and still accentuate my waist – and I really don’t want to support fast fashion.
Have I also mentioned I’m 5’8”? So just to tot everything up for you; I have to shop in tall sections, big busted ranges and sometimes plus size sections so that I can squeeze my hips and backside into a skirt. ASOS have recently created a line for those of us with bigger busts, and the incredible brand Hunkemoller have swimwear and lingerie to suit any body type. They so kindly sent me a bikini from their DD+ section, and let me tell you that it fits like a dream. No more feeling shit for having to pick up an XL bikini just to fit the girls in and then tying it ridiculously tight around my back, or grabbing a pair of bottoms in a size up so my bum isn’t on full show, but then the front of the bikini goes all wrinkled and weird (girls, you know the deal).