I love reading other people's blogs, and one of my favourite bloggers (rbekhaj.com) has a series appropriately named 'Small Happy Moments'. I love reading this series because it is so positive and uplifting, and it has reminded me to appreciate some of the smaller things in life. So, I thought I'd try my hand at writing some happy moments myself. Welcome to my first 'Happy Moments' post...I got a (pretty drastic) haircut!
I've never really known what to do with my hair as I'm really lazy with it, but recently a hairdresser friend of mine wanted a model to take with him to London to showcase his work. I had absolutely no say in what he did to my hair and I actually loved what he did - which I was glad about, as I was scared I'd hate it. I've always wanted my hair blonder and have never even considered going darker than my original colour, so it was a bit of a shock to me when I loved the darkish brown he'd dyed my hair (even if the sun has now tinted it lighter). He also put a fringe in and cut a fair bit off the length so my hair's now in a bob; I absolutely love the fringe - something I never thought I'd say - and I like the shape of my haircut, too; I'd like it a little longer just so I can tie it up.
Here are a few before and after pictures.
This haircut has given me such a confidence boost and it was definitely a change that I've been wanting for a while (that 'post breakup haircut'? A year overdue). The change to my appearance has given me a lot of happiness so I felt that it was worthy of my first 'happy moments' post. I hope you enjoyed reading!
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Is it okay to 'outgrow' your friends?
I have been edging closer and closer to the end of my time studying my A Levels (something that has seemed like an eternity), I've become more and more aware of how many new people I have had the good fortune of meeting and it's also made me realise who are my sorts of "people", and who aren't. I have absolutely no idea where I'm going with this post, so I apologise if this just seems like word vomit.
I think what I'm trying to say is, it's okay to not want to be friends with people and to not want to give them your time and effort. I'm not saying be rude, I'm just saying that you shouldn't feel pressured to go out of your way to make an effort with people when, in reality, they're just not your sort of person. This can also mean old friends, you may begin to realise that these people that you were once inseparable with are no longer your "sort". This is completely fine, and I've realised that these friends may no longer be the sort of people I would choose to socialise with but they share very important memories with me and I still cherish them dearly. It's okay to prioritise yourself and your preferences.
I agree that it is a shame that we outgrow people, but you have to accept that every single person you know has a different life and no one will stay the same forever. Don't get me wrong, I still care about my old friends a lot and I will always want to check up on them and see them but I think it is important to accept that we all need to grow in our own ways and sometimes that unfortunately means leaving good friends behind to do their own growing.
Like I said earlier, I had no idea where this post was going and it may make no sense whatsoever, I think I'm just being a bit reflective on my own life and who the most important people in it are. I know I will always want to keep in touch with my old friends because I did a lot of growing up with them and I love them with all my heart, but at the same time I think we all need to accept that there are other people who may suit you better, and there is nothing wrong with prioritising these people.
As always, thank you so much for reading and I'm sorry if this post was a hot mess. I've just been feeling very reflective recently and wanted to share my thoughts with you.