If you didn't already know, Farrah Storr is one of my idols. As an aspiring journalist, she really is quite a woman to look up to (Cosmo has been my favourite magazine for years). I had the pleasure of meeting her at a Cosmopolitan networking event a few years ago and that was when I realised that this woman was a woman. So, when she announced she was releasing a book I preordered it immediately and patiently waited for months - my god, it was worth it.
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'The Discomfort Zone' is a mixture between Farrah's personal experience, others' inspirational stories and advice/information about your own personal discomfort zone. I had a relatively stressful year in 2018 (to say the least) and I really wish this book had come out earlier because it would have motivated me to power through some hurdles much better than I did.
The book discusses how we cope with failure and obstacles, I've learned that I'm an 'obstacle magnifier' meaning I perceive things to be so much worse than they are. It also talks about 'hustling' and (I wish I could say it was purely a coincidence) after reading I decided to do some of my own, so I've been emailing plenty of companies to get involved with my blog - I've pushed myself out of my discomfort zone and so far it's worked pretty well.
As always, thank you for reading! What helps you get motivated to be successful?
As I mentioned in my birthday post, something I’ve realised in life is that you should always be open to learning things about yourself. Well, something I learned about myself in 2018 is that I’m constantly worrying about my future and that I'm one of those people who always has to be doing something. If I’m not at uni I’m doing work, if not working then I’m blogging and if not blogging then I’m reading – and what about all that time I get off in between semesters? Throw me a 30 hour week and I’ll do some waitressing. My brain literally can’t switch off.
Something I learned very recently is that because I’m always doing something, I’m often thinking about what to do next. This isn’t just small scale, either. Not “I’m revising right now and will cook then write a post”, oh I wish…no. It’s “I’m at university until 2021 then I need to do this, this and this and then do this to be able to do this”. My anxieties related to my future are slowly driving me to insanity. So, here’s a chirpsy little post on why the hell am I so worried about my future?!
I think one answer that isn’t so worrying is that I’m super excited about my future. Visiting New York over the summer and moving from an incredibly small town in the countryside to a capital city has made me ecstatic to see all the places I possibly can and experience them in my own way. If I could, I would pack my bags and move to New York in a heartbeat … imagine all the other places I can see and fall in love with along the way! And let’s talk about how exciting growing my blog and getting settled into a career is going to be – I literally cannot wait.
Another pretty similar answer is that I’m constantly setting goals. I like bettering myself and I think goal-setting is a very positive thing for me. So, when I’m always making goals I want to think about things further into the future, career-wise, blog-wise and personal-life wise (my personal life has literally no goals other than to travel and own at least one Chow Chow). I wouldn’t be my goal-getting, ambitious self if I wasn’t thinking about my future all the time.
Next? Well, I hate to admit it but maybe I’m wishing my life away a little. I despised my year of A Levels and I really spent the whole time thinking “this will be over soon”. I have to be honest and say I’m sick of education. I love learning and socialising but I hate the exams and essays and I’m just so ready to live that maybe I’m wishing away the next few years (and don’t even get me started on whether I want to do a masters or not).
I really don’t think there’s anything wrong with me wanting to get stuck into the “boring” everyday life, right now I’m immersing myself into university (getting way too drunk too many times a week? I’m your gal), definitely living in the now and I’m enjoying it, but I really think I’m ready for some more adventures and maybe my future is where those experiences are.
Thank you for reading my little ramble, Soph’s babbling posts are definitely back! Do you find that you worry about your future a lot or are you more of a ‘live in the moment’ kind of person?
A blogger writing their New Years’ Resolutions as their last post of the year? Are you really that shocked?! I wrote a similar post last year (‘drink less alcohol’ was clearly me starting 2018 with a good joke) and I just think it’s nice to note my goals down…so without further ado, here are my aims for 2019.
2. sleep more/better
I’m currently writing this at half past midnight when I’ve been up since 8am in an attempt to ‘create a sleeping routine’ … ask me how that’s going? I like to get up early to go to the gym and get a headstart at a more productive day – yes, I’m one of those people – but then my brain doesn’t switch off if I don’t get myself to sleep by 9:30ish. It’s like I have a little timer inside my head and once I’ve gone past that time, by brain decides to get shit done. I want to have a better sleep schedule this year and be much more strict with it, because it’s clearly not going so well at the moment.
3. find a balance
I’m doing pretty well at the moment with my uni/social life/blog balance, but at some point I should probably factor a job into the equation (unless my job at home wants to pay me double, or someone wants to pay me £1,000 per post). I love working when I’m back home but I wouldn’t mind some extra cash while I’m at uni, which means I’m going to have to work out when I can slot some shifts in.
5. stop putting things off
I’m a constant worrier and overthinker. I don’t often talk about my mental health on here simply because it gets me down, but my anxiety towards general existence will slowly push me into a corner of my room if I’m not careful. I recently read The Discomfort Zone by Farrah Storr (a post is on its way but I’ll save you waiting and say BUY IT) and it made me realise how much I need to grab things by the balls and stop putting them off. I’m really hoping this year I can push myself out of my comfort zone a little bit more each month. Who knows, maybe I’ll even make a solo trip somewhere this year and say ‘screw you’ to my anxiety towards transport and travelling alone.
What are your resolutions for the new year? I haven't given myself too many this year in the hopes that the end result will be quality over quantity. 2018 really wasn't the best year for me in so many ways and I'm so glad to see the back of it, but at the same time I've really seen myself grow this year and, in an odd way, I'm very thankful for it. I'm hoping to make 2019 my best yet!
With Christmas right around the corner, I hope you're spending plenty of time curled up on the sofa in front of the TV (unlike those of us that work in hospitality). If you think you're all binge-watched out, then you've come to the right place, because I've rounded up the best shows that I'll never get sick of watching.
Did you expect to read the title of this post and not see The Office mentioned first?! As I said in my birthday blog post, I'm on my 7th round of the show and I don't think I'll ever get sick of it.
The mockumentary follows the incredible character Michael Scott, who regularly screws up at his job as regional manager of a paper company. I can guarantee you'll be in stitches at every episode, and those funny skits at the start of each ep definitely add to the comedy. It's possibly the funniest and most lighthearted show you could ever come across. I dare you to watch it and not become way too emotionally invested in the characters.
One of the easiest shows to watch and with very lovable characters, I find myself choosing Gossip Girl a little t00 regularly. If you do choose to watch this, I can't be held accountable for how much you'll want to live in the Upper East Side - it always leaves me dreaming of the New York life I wish I had.
If you want your teen show and New York lifestyle fix, then Gossip Girl is definitely the one for you.
The good place
Well, there are three shows that I can watch over and over (and over) again - ironically I'm watching The Office as I'm just finishing up this post. What are some shows you'll never get sick of? I'm always ready for a new binge.
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Now that I've done my first semester, I feel like I can reflect upon my uni experience so far. Everyone (I mean everyone) talks about how great uni is; living with your friends, going out constantly, having freedom, being one long boozer - which it isn't, I hate to break it to you - but there are other things that definitely go unmentioned before you begin university. A few of these things are actually my favourite bits about uni, so come and have a peek:
Yes, I'm completely skint and most of the time I have no idea what I'm doing, but living independently is actually a a lot of fun. It definitely helps that I like my own company, but choosing what to do with your spare time is really quite liberating and I love deciding what I want to do and eat each day. Let's not pretend I don't phone my mum almost daily, though!
Have I actually just said studying? Yes, why yes I have...hear me out.
You're studying something that you (hopefully) enjoy and you're surrounded by likeminded people who want to be there. I find my seminars, where we have big class discussions, to be the favourite parts of my uni week. It's so refreshing to talk about things that you actually want to learn about.